“Your daughter has an ultra-rare genetic mutation called NALCN gene disorder with variable contracture/CLIFAHDD syndrome”, the doctor shared through my iPhone.

“We recommend you and your husband undergo genetic testing to see who carries the gene for future family planning and generational knowledge.”

-Mom, they were pointing at a boy and laughing and then one of them said, “Ugh! He looks totally autistic.”

-Mom, they were talking about someone and kept using the “R” word over and over and over.

-Mom, what am I supposed to say??? I can’t just let them say those things!

I replied, “Yes, you can.”

A few years ago I was invited to speak to a group of young girls for career week. I asked what I should focus on – Types of pharmacy? Years of college? Residency options? Job opportunities?

The reply was, “Oh. You’re a pharmacist? We wanted you to come speak about being an author.”

“You were not selected.”

In a copy and paste email that epitomized the classic compliment sandwich, I was rejected.